Just a quick update

So much going on but where to begin?  I guess I will start with what I am most ticked off about.  Jeff’s x girlfriend in Lakeview, the one that he lived with while we were not together, keeps trying to screw him over.  The day he told her he was leaving she told him she was pregnant.  We/I thought she was lying- trying to get him to stay.  Well, in April she gave birth to a girl.  Now she is going after him for child support.  In the process she is telling the courts all kinds of lies.  She is telling them that Jeff owns half of a company (his friend Travis owns this company- not Jeff).  Now I am in danger of losing my state assistants, she or the county that she is living in and telling all of these lies to, have now told my county that Jeff owns part of this company and that he is making all kinds of money.  Now they are investigating my case, worse case scenario would be I would lose my benefits for a year and have to pay back over $4,000 in benefits.  I am so ticked!  Jeff does not own any part of any business and Travis is willing to get them whatever paperwork they need to prove it.  Jeff has not made any money in over a year, trust me I know- I have had to support him & 3 kids all on my own measly pay!    I will just be so ticked off if this doesn’t go the way it should.  I have done nothing wrong & yet I am getting the shaft!   I just found out that they lowered my food stamps by $100 a month!  I don’t understand how they could do that, I did get a raise but it wasn’t that big and it didn’t exceed the amount they indicated on my last statement that I am to notify them if my wages increase.  Plus Jeff is now ordered to pay child support to above mentioned pain in the rear and I included that court paper.  Geesh, maybe I’ll just have to get a second job- one that will allow me to get benefits working part time and then I can just tell the state to shove it!  It is more of a pain than anything!  But $243 a month for food is better than nothing!  I guess we are just going to go on a diet, or it’s going to be Wal*Mart brand mac & cheese everyday!  I’m going to have to start clipping coupons and collecting store ads before I go shopping.  Wal*Mart honors anyone’s ads.  I need to win the lotto, atleast enough to pay off my house.  Then I would have more money from my check to pay for other stuff.

This weekend

This weekend seemed uneventful.  

Friday night: stayed home.  It snowed- a lot.  We (the kids & I) were going to go to Fremont to their Uncle Jason’s house.  We ended up staying home.  Beanie fell asleep by the time the rest of us were ready to head out the door.   Lil’Man was very disappointed that we didn’t go.   By 11pm though everyone was in bed & all the kids were sleeping.  I was watching tv.  Close to midnight I heard some strange noise outside of my bedroom window.  I took a peek outside to see a small pickup truck (S-10 size) out on the sidewalk across the street.  I live on a corner & the truck was on the opposite corner.  They were spinning their tires on the sidewalk trying to get some traction.  They were pointed right at my house.  I could just see them hitting the one clear spot on the road & come careening into the corner of my house, which would have happened to be my bedroom!  Luckily that didn’t happen and I was able to go to sleep without a truck in my room.

Saturday morning & afternoon:  We got up and started cleaning the house.  I just find it hard to believe how messy my kids can be.  The house is now clean & I hope it will stay that way for a long while.  & when I say clean, it is “put the house on the market & let’em come on over & inspect the house” clean.   That’s the downstairs anyway.  I take no responsible on how the upstairs looks.  I try to not go up there; I tend to get upset when I do.    At one point, Lil’Man had told Gomer that he & I were no longer on speaking terms.  His Uncle had a package delivered to our place & we were going to bring it to him.  Lil’Man was hoping to stay over there to play with his cousin.  Well the kids were going to Gma’s @ 5pm and we were running out of time to go to Fremont to deliver the package.  So Lil’Man was upset with me, again.  Nothing new.   Around 4 Gomer & I head to the store to pick up a new garbage can.  I threw the old one away; it was so disgusting I couldn’t stand it anymore.  I also picked up a squirt bottle.  I am going to put some smelly stuff in it for when the dog gets into the trash I can spray her on the nose & she’ll get out of it & stay out.  Gomer also ended up getting a new t-shirt.  It says something about she’s looking for a cowboy.  It’s real cute; maybe I’ll post a picture of it.  

Oh, side note:  My dog is so naughty!  While we were cleaning I was also looking for the lost remote for the digital cable (still haven’t found it).  I moved the lazy boy chairs and decided to check to see if the remote had fallen down into the cushions.  I stick my hand down the side of one of them into something all squishy and gross.  I pulled my hand out of there so fast, the whole while yelling “Awwwwwwweeeeeeee, Aaaawwwweee!”   I pull the cushion back to see what is now under my nails.  It is a pale yellow, almost white color.  I immediately think of the bone Gomer had giving her the week before, it had been frozen and I thought maybe the morrow had fallen out and that is what is squished.  I then pull it out & discover the dog was hiding a stick of butter in my lazy boy!  So gross!

Saturday late afternoon into evening:  I left to take the kids to Gma’s almost 20 minutes later then I had planned.  We passed their Uncle Jason on our way there (he was on his way to my place to pick up the before mentioned package).  After I deposited the kids at Gma’s house I had to go to Travis’ to pick up Jeff & Travis.  Then back to my house to shower & change before the girls showed up.  The spa party was to start at 7.  I had 45 minutes by the time I got home.  Luckily everyone was running late.  Only Jenn & Sherry showed up for the party, but it was a lot of fun!  Mel got there late, at the end- it was her Gpa’s b-day party day.   After the party was done & we all (cept Mel) felt relaxed and refreshed, we got ready to go out.  First we went to the Sportman’s for dinner then we stopped at State St Pub for a quick minute then we headed to City Limits in White Cloud.   Jeff & Travis went with us, or as Jenn refers to them as “Dumb & Dumber.”   We had a lot of fun.  Mel got a bit tipsy, so much so that she danced- she never dances!   We closed the bar, then headed home.  

Sunday: Had Jeff go pick the kids up from Gma’s & take Travis home.  Then the kids & I went to church.  After church we hung around the house.  I was so cold that I decided to take a bath to warm up and relax.  Must have relaxed too much cuz I ended up taking a nap in the tub!   So instead of falling under & drowning I decided to get out & go finish my nap in bed.  I had just over an hour to sleep before we had to leave for youth group.  On our way to youth group I had to pick up a couple of Dairy Queen ice cream cakes, it was Renee’s (one of the middle school leaders) birthday- she’s 28 now.    So we had birthday cake after youth group and then the girls (Sebrina & Beanie) started doing rolls & cart wheels in the living room.  Renee was showing them how to do them.  Beanie got down on the floor & did a bridge (back bend) and then told Renee that I can do them too.  So I had to crawl down onto the floor and show the adults & children that yes I too can do one of those!  While I was up in the air, Ali and Beanie decided to crawl under my “bridge”!  I didn’t realize Beanie was under me & my bridge closed on her!  I need to do those bends more often!   My back isn’t sore today.

I know it's not whiny Wednesday but .....

I know it’s not whiney day, but I just need to whine a little bit today.

I am hot, not the “wow is she gorgeous” kind of way but in the “wow I’d like to take my top off” kind of way.
My necklace is bothering me today.  I don’t always accessorize but decided to today and this wire “choker” style necklace is bothering me.  (Jenn it’s the one I bought at Wal-Mart when I was there visiting you.)  
I don’t like it when I wear shoes that I can’t kick off during the day.  I wore boots today, really cool heeled boots that make me even taller then I already am, but I have to unzip them to take them off.  If a client came in I am either stuck at my desk so they don’t know I am shoeless or I would have to pull them on & zip them up as quickly as possible.

Okay, that’s it.  I’m done whinnying.  I could go on.  Gomer has made me mad.  She decided that her younger siblings needed an email address so she set them up with one to share.  Without asking for my permission!  I think 8 & 10 is too young to have an email address.  

Lil’Man said the funniest thing the other day.  Just he & I were in the truck, Gomer was at church with a friend & Beanie was spending the night at Gma’s house.  Anyway, he asked if he could play the computer when we got home, I told him no.  He asked why, I told him cuz I wanted to spend some time with him & asked if he wanted to spend some time with me.  His reply was “no”.  Well!  I then told him I could get me a different son to spend time with.  He told me “no you can’t you had your tubes tied and you don’t have the money to adopt one either.”  Geeze, when did he learn all of this stuff?!  I told him I could pick up a new one off of the street. He looked around and told me I couldn’t do that either cuz there were no kids out.  Guess he has an answer for everything!  

Beanie was driving me crazy last night.  She was so full of energy; she was dancing & spinning all over the place.  And she was non-stop chatter!  She had a field trip today to the museum in GR so she had to pack a lunch.  So off to the store we go.  I’ve shopped with this child enough to know that in order to avoid spending hours in there getting 4 items she needs to decide what she is getting before we leave the house.  I made her write a list.  We left the store in 25 minutes, not bad for a shopping trip with her.  Of course she has to pick out the highest priced items, not the bargain shopper is she.

Well tonight we will more than likely go to Fremont to Jason & Mel’s house.  Then tomorrow night the kids are going to Gma’s for the night while I have a girl’s night.  It will start with a Spa Party at my house. Nothing like a little pampering before heading out to the bar!    I am so looking forward to Saturday night.  It had better not snow as much as they are saying it might.  They are talking about 6 inches in 8 hours or something like that.  Seeing how we only have a dusting of snow right now & its mid January I’d say we are doing just fine.  For a girl that lives in Michigan I don’t care for the snow all that much!  It’s not really the snow as much as it’s the slippery driving and the cold that I don’t like.

Whiney Wednesday

I am going to whine today. I feel that I have enough to whine about so I am going to whine. If anything else it will make me feel better to just have let them out of my head, maybe now the tiny voices in my head will stop talking! These are in no order, just whatever order they fall out of my head in.

1. I am broke, I really want to go to OK for Spring Break but don’t know if I can afford to.


2. My back hurts, darn boobs- they’ve got to be the problem.


3. I didn’t sleep well last night; I think I woke up about 15 times during the night.


4. I didn’t watch my show last night because I thought I would try to get a good night sleep.


5. I’m tired of people putting down Jeff- granted it is very easy to do, but he is my problem right now. I know how other people feel about him and all but do they really have to tell me every time I try to vent some of my frustrations? It is getting to the point that I keep it all bottled up inside & someday- maybe really soon- I just might explode! I don’t want to be there when that happens!


6. I want my mommy.


7. Jeff wants me to put my house on the market. After that I am not exactly sure what he expects to happen. There is no way I would sell my house without firm plans on what will happen next. He wants to move out of state. What purpose would that serve? His problems are going to follow him where ever he goes. My problems will only get worse if I leave the state. I have 3 kids that need at least one stable parent in their lives- & guess what folks, that will always be me and only me!


8. I am about $3 grand short of what it takes to pay my bills each year. I did my budget yesterday.


9. I need a financial miracle to happen, like winning the lottery. I don’t need to match all the numbers & win the jackpot. I just need $100,000 to pay off my house & vehicle, and then I can live very easily off of what I make. Heck- I’d even take $88K to just pay off the house and keep paying on the vehicle each month!


10. I wonder if anyone, at home, would notice if I quit talking. It’s not like I ever get to finish a story, I am always getting interrupted by someone who has no idea what he is talking about but thinks he knows everything about anything on this planet! I have hopes & dreams but no one else knows about them cuz I keep them all bottled up inside.


11. I really should be working right now, but I so don’t feel like it. I’ve had that problem all week. It doesn’t help to start your week off with the Wicked Witch of the West yelling at you in your office over something you have no control over. Maybe if she had left us her phone number I could have called her to tell her that my boss would not be here when she came in. But she didn’t even have an appointment with him, she just had an appointment to come in to get a quote. My boss told her that “we” would be happy to meet with her, that he would be doing it himself. It was about a one minute conversation, her stating that she wanted to bring in her papers to get a quote Monday @ 10 am, Boss Man saying that someone would be able to help her at that time & to come on in. Does that sound like she was setting an appointment with just him? I didn’t think so. So when she got here and there was no Boss Man, she went off on me saying it was a waste of her time, blah blah blah…. Saying how she would not be doing business with this office blah..blah..blah.. then demanded that I do her quotes for her anyways and asked if there was another office in town for her to do business with! I so wanted to tell her that I wasn’t going to waste my time if that was how she was going to be, but I’ve had 10 years of “good customer service” beaten into my head so I was polite & did the quotes. When Boss Man found out, he told me I should have told her that I wasn’t going to waste my time on her. Guess I should go with my gut feeling on stuff then huh!

Okay, I do feel better now. I am going to try very hard to save up the money I will need to go to OK in April. I will need about a grand, we’ll see. If Jeff’s disability goes through then I know I will be able to go, the kids get a certain amount each month- that will be a very nice increase towards our budget! I’ll be able to pay all the bills each month & have money left over to take the kids places & get the stuff they need too so they won’t have to go ask their Grandma for it. I always feel like such a bad mom cuz my kids feel they have to ask their Grandma for money for things like book orders, school cloths, field trips etc….

Okay, really I’ve got work to do!

I am no longer a Virgin to HNT!

Okay, I thought I would finally join the bandwagon and do a little HNT’ness! So here is a picture of my almost 10 year old tat. I am sorry to say that it is in dire need of a touch-up! Sorry about the unshaven legs! I am usually very picky about my prickly legs. I like them nice & smooth. Anyways, I’ll repost another picture of the tat once I get it fixed. See the x has the same one (just different color) on his person too. So I feel that I should change mine a bit.

Why do I have the weirdest dreams?

Last night I dreamt that I lived in a different city (not sure which one but it was another small town).  I lived in the upstairs of a garage like building- had the entire upstairs w/ lots of room and it was very bright & cheery apartment.  Anyways, I wasn't with Jeff in this dream.  Lil’Man was at a friend’s house the entire dream too.  An X -fling came over to visit and he didn't recognize me until I kissed him- then he knew it was me- apparently I had lost lots of weight in my dream (in my dreams I am always skinny).  Then we all went to a football game, it was a sunny warm day.  After the game we went back to my place and I had been robbed!  They stole the big TV, the PS2 & all games and other electronics.  They even stole some of my "toys" out of my room along with the x-scream!  I was so mad when I discovered that was gone!  I went outside & a county deputy was out there (traffic control for the game- most have lived very close cuz we had walked to the game).  I found him as I was calling 911.  He came in and started finger printing the door & stuff.  Then my dream fast forwards to later and the girls are in bed.  X-Fling is still there (guess he is spending the night) well nice adult things happen, now its morning in my dream and we are both naked in my bed.  Suddenly my niece Ali and my other niece Lindsay come bursting into my room.  I sit up in bed trying to hid X-Fling (at least that is who I think it is), I get the girls out of my room, tell them that I will be out in a minute.  Gomer yells from the other room that Amy (Lindsay’s Mom) is there.  I go out to the kitchen to find Amy waving out the window at Jeremy that he can leave.  I guess I was to take her somewhere the next day so she just decided to stay the night @ my place.  She & I talk for a minute then I see my Durango driving into the drive.  Jeff was driving it.  I panic!  I run back to the bedroom (remember naked guy in bed!) and tell him he has to leave NOW cuz Jeff was there.  Keep in mind I was not with Jeff in this dream but still didn't want him to find a naked guy in my bed.  That is where I woke up.
 
I have strange dreams!

Whiney Wednesday

I am now going to attempt my first Whiney Wednesday entry.  Here goes.

1. I have a headache, nothing new I’ve had one for the last 20+ years.


2. My back hurts, between my shoulder blades, think it was something to do with the boobs.


3. I am tired of the “floater” I have in my right eye.  It makes me think I am seeing small flying insects.


4. At 31, should I really be getting zits?


5. I am tired of being broke!


6. I need to loss weight, but don’t like to exercise or watch what I eat.


7. I would love to have the extra fat sucked out of my body, but please refer to #5!


8. I want to go on vacation!  Again, refer to #5.


9. I miss my partner in crime, she moved to Oklahoma.  Could someone over there please send her back?  I’ll return her, I promise!


10. I really want a Girls’ Night Out, again #5!  But if I work things right then I can have a Girls Night, get drunk & not spend a penny!  Ok, who wants to go?!


11. I am sick of Jeff spending what little money/credit I have.


12. I am also sick of Jeff.


13. My boss wants to move me to salary, I don’t know if I want that.


14. I am tired of my numbers not being the winning numbers for the lottery.  I’m not requiring the entire jackpot for myself, just enough to get out of debt and help some of those in need.


15. I have a head cold; I am tired of blowing my nose.  But for the moment I can breathe out of both sides.

Another weekend- gone!

Another weekend has gone by again.  Where does all the time go?  Why can’t I bottle up some of the time I waste & use it when I need it?  Now that would be a product to sell and make millions off of!  Saturday I was supposed to go help Jennifer clean her new place, but Jeff never showed up to be with the kids so I could go.  Now Gomer is old enough to baby-sit her siblings but the girls were fighting like that was no tomorrow and I didn’t think it would be wise to leave them home alone, no matter how tempting it was!  So Saturday I did laundry, I even washed my bedding!  Then Saturday night we went over to Jason & Melanie’s.  Mel’s sister was there with her 1 month old baby.  He is so cute, lots of hair.  But man, was he fussy!  I so am done having kids of my own, I can hold & play with my friends’ kids!  

Sunday we skipped church, I know really bad but I had a bad cough that wouldn’t stop until I took a drink & didn’t want to start coughing in the middle of pray or something.  At noon, Jennifer called me.  Her furnace had gone out & she didn’t know how to light it.  So I packed up the kids and we headed south to GR to help her.  Turned out the emergency shut off switch on the wall had been flipped to the off position.  So while I was there we finished washing cupboards and Jennifer & I changed out the bathroom faucet.  That was a chore.  I don’t know why they make the spaces so small and the wrenches so big?  After a much struggling, one head bang against the screw holding the sink in place and a few choice curses from my mouth, we got the faucet changed.  Oh, yeah, I had to replace the trap and the pipe off of the trap that I broke when I removed the trap.  The trap had a big ol’ hole in it.  For someone that has never done anything plumbing related other then removing a trap to retrieve a lost earring, I think I did pretty well.  One word of wisdom to anyone changing a faucet, make sure you tighten the nut on the water lines before you turn the water back on.  It could be quite messy if you don’t and then you have all kinds of grossness to lie in while you tighten the nuts.   For all of my troubles (and my sore head that I swore was bleeding) Jennifer took the kids & I out for Village Inn Pizza!  When we got done I had 50 minutes to make it from 44th and Breton to Newaygo to watch Desperate Housewives.  I would have almost made it too, except I had to go to the grocery store & pick up some milk.  I had pulled into the drive at 9:05 and I received a chorus of “Hey, you forgot to go to Plumb’s!”  Man I thought I could get away with not going- we had ¼ of a gallon in the frig.  But no.. they made me go back to the store to get it and the chicken noodle soup that Beanie wanted.  So by the time I got back home and showered the grossness off of me it was 9:30.  I was just in time to see Lynette kissing Carlo.  I’m not sure what all happened the first half of the show but I thought the last half was pretty entertaining.

Oh, My little man is growing up!

Oh, I think my son is growing up! This morning he actually asked me if his cloths matched! This is the child that could care less if his cloths fit correctly let alone match each other. His cloths of choice is usually whatever is lying on his floor, he doesn’t even care if they are clean. He is such a boy!

Beanie has decided that this Saturday is the day we are having her belated birthday party. She had strep throat and we had to cancel her party before. Now I think I have strep throat. Go figure. I’ll just have to not breathe on them or drink out of their cups.

Gomer has an ingrown toe nail. It is really bad. The doctor said it has curved into the side of her toe. He was going to remove it, got all gowned up, had the needles out and everything. Having the needles in Gomer’s eye sight was were he made his mistake. She freaked out and would not let him touch her foot. Grandma had taken her, now Grandma refuses to take her back. I’ll have to set an appointment, take the time off of work and take her in myself. She will hate that trip cuz Momma doesn’t put up with her bullcrap! She just finished the antibiotic they put her on. The toe was infected- so gross! But Volleyball is coming up and she will need it fixed before then. I just got off the phone with the doctor’s office & it is going to be removed on Friday the 13th. I hope that isn’t a bad sign!

I’ve been busy lately helping my friend Jennifer (another friend from HS) get her new place ready to live in. She has been living with a friend of hers that is the worst house keeper in the universe! Really bad, worse than anyone else ever! Yes Jenn- even worse than your mom when you were growing up- that was clutter this is gross! Her friend & her family has been out of town (her husband took a job in a different state) and Jennifer and her daughter have been there alone. She has found dirty diapers under piles of junk, that is how bad this girl’s housekeeping skills are! Anyway, Jennifer has purchased a mobile home for dirt cheap. So I have been helping her clean and paint- ya’know getting it ready to live in. The people that lived in it before (they handed the title over to the park to pay for their back lot rent) left all kinds of junk behind. The bathroom is beyond disgusting. The floor, we discovered, has a hole rotted in it. Now we have to put in a new sub floor. And we found that some of the pipes leak. I think that is just from being shut up for the winter without having the lines drained. Ol’Man is over there fixing things for her. I really think once we are done it will be a very nice place for her. It is 3 bedrooms (one will be the computer room), a living room and dining room, bathroom, kitchen and laundry area. It is really good sized and besides the hole in the bathroom floor very sound. I am glad that she is finally going to be able to have her own place, where she doesn’t have to worry about roommates!
Once this project is done, we will start on a project at my house. We are going to put in hardwood floors in the living room and dining room. I also want to replace the step that is in my living room that leads to the dining room. I have to wait on my brother for that one. He has to take down the black walnut tree in his yard first. Once it is down we are going to cut it in half- long ways- debark it, and make it into a step. I think it will look so cool. I want to tile the landing that is at the door when you come in. I’ve already picked out the tile, it has a matching boarder tile too. It is pebbles.
It’s not the best picture, but it gives you an idea of what it looks like. The big tiles would go across the top of the landing and the pebbles would go around the edges, on the raise.